Shout out to neurodivergent people who took forever to report physical symptoms because they were too disconnected from their bodies to notice they were in pain until it started to interfere with daily functioning.
“I’m just trying to be nice! Why can’t you look at it from my perspective??”
Yes. We do. That’s the point. We chronically ill and disabled people ALWAYS have to look at it from your perspective and keep our mouth shut and get hurt, but guess what? YOU seeing it from OUR perspective isn’t going to HARM YOU, meanwhile you forcing us to keep quiet and keep seeing it from your perspective HARMS US.
So why don’t you for a change, stop being so petty and take two seconds to consider how we feel. And if we open up and tell you something you say or do makes us feel bad, don’t just get mad and be like nO THAT’S WRONG I KNOW BETTER,MERE DISABLED PERSON because that’s just so selfish and shitty.
Don’t just reply with “I’m just trying to be nice!!” when I say you shouldn’t say something to someone who’s disabled or when I say what you said/did hurt me. Apologize. Apologize and remember to not do it again.
I want people without sensory issues to know that when a person with sensory processing issues says “I cannot do x right not because of my sensory issues”, we are usually not using our disorder for a cheap excuse.
Sometimes I need to procrastinate doing dishes because the noise of plates or cutlery clinking against each other hurts my ears so bad I wanna cry. Even loading the dishwasher or putting away clean dishes is too loud.
Sometimes I need to put my foot down and say, “I can’t go out today. Because I know that when I go outside, I will get so overwhelmed by stimuli that it will render me useless for the rest of the day because I will probably have a really bad meltdown.”
IDK what point i was going to make but like… don’t assume someone is lazy because they use their sensory issues to explain why they can’t do something as soon as you ask them to, or because they cancel something because they know a specific input will hurt them. It’s not their fault. It’s the fault of their faulty sensory processing.
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