It’s Mormon conference weekend, which happens twice a year, and is when all the Mormons stay in and listen to new talks given by their leaders all day long on Saturday and Sunday. It’s consequently also a very scary time for the gay community in Utah, and the whole weekend we often send and receive lots of texts checking in, making sure everyone’s okay, asking if they’ve heard the latest awful talk condemning us. There’s real world applications to everything that happens there. Parents are “moved” to disown their children, coworkers and friends and neighbors are reminded to Other us and treat us accordingly. Suicide rates increase significantly. I remember the year after they announced children of gay parents would have to formally disown them before they’d be welcome in the church, and for two weeks afterward a group chat updated the gay community in my area almost every day with a handful of names who were not longer with us. A talk just concluded that said confusing both your gender identity and your gender role is the influence of Satan, which is deeply harmful to young trans kids and to young women. This isn’t a fun or sexy post for your timeline it just sucks and I hate Mormons and I can feel how difficult this next week is going to be as a result.
I just… I know it’s easy to just joke about Mormons and consider them harmless cause Utah is just one state and who lives there?? But like, I do. And lots of gay and trans people do, as well as poc, and young women who have had their whole lives and concepts of self defined by this bullshit. It’s the popular culture and it’s the state laws and it’s everything it’s not just something people do in Sundays. A friend of mine went on a Mormon mission and realized he was gay after he’d been having psychosomatic seizures. For four months. Because he’d been trained to repress it so well. Like you all KNOW it’s important to me to love and respect all religions but that’s not a fucking religion they’re absolutely evil and making millions of dollars off of this shit and it makes me so mad.
“I’ll remember” is the ADHD demon talking. You won’t remember. Write it down.
bold of you to assume i’ll remember where i wrote it, or even that i wrote it
Visual exhaustion is another symptom of ADHD, which means that if we see something enough times (or we see enough instances of something), it fades into background noise and we fail to notice it.
This is why a lot of ADHD people can stand living surrounded by mess/clutter, because it’s just visual background noise to us. We don’t even notice it anymore.
So if we write something down and see the note stuck up somewhere a lot – or if we write a LOT of somethings down and have a lot of notes hanging around – then we’re even less likely to think of/remember the thing because it’s just part of the scenery now.
ADHD is the Catch-22 of brains.
A very good thing to know about ADHD. Don’t fall into the trap.
A lot of folks in the comments are talking about writing on themselves or setting phone/calendar reminders. Your mileage may vary on those. You may also want to consider ways to set a habit of referring back to a planner or similar every day/hour.
It’s not for our system, it’s for every DID and OSDD System. And I don’t see how it would be an issue.
People with DID and OSDD survived trauma because of their multiplicity. It’s what got them through.
Then, because of stigma in society, we are taught to be ashamed of our multiplicity and to keep it hidden. We deserve to be able to celebrate our systems and be proud of what they’ve accomplished. I feel like having a System Pride day is infinitely important. Having a flag isn’t about just wanting a flag. It’s a way for us to spot one another while we’re out and about and be reminded that we’re not as alone as we thought. It’s a symbol of solidarity. -Wyn
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