butterflyinthewell:

nonbinarynerdbot:

autistickeely:

By saying “a person with autism” it sounds like autism is some terrible thing that this poor person is suffering with, and autism is not that! Autism is a lifelong neurological, developmental condition/disability (I prefer the word condition to disorder) that is in no way a bad thing. Autistic people’s brains are wired differently to a neurotypical’s and we see the world in a different way. We experience things and interpret things differently too. Being autistic is who we are and it makes up our whole identity, by saying “a person with autism” it separates us from our identity and makes it seem like there is something wrong with us. I see being autistic as a very positive thing, I don’t see it as something bad because it’s who I am, there’s nothing wrong with me.

I would disagree. I work at a park board with a department specifically geared toward people with various neurological and physical disabilities, and we use the term “people with disabilities” because it forces those outside of our department to think of our participants as people first and disabled second. I can understand your point, but I don’t think it’s meant that way.

^ And that’s exactly the problem. It’s not meant to be bad, but it IS bad in some cases. And it’s always with disability identities.

I’m not a person with Catholicism, I’m Catholic.

I’m not a person with womanhood, I’m a woman.

I’m not a person with cisgenderness, I’m cisgender.

I’m not a person with whiteness, I’m white.

I’m not a person with asexuality, I’m asexual.

I’m not a person with autism, I’m autistic.

Many have said that “if you have to remind yourself that disabled people are people first, the problem is not their disability.”

I can’t speak for people with other issues, such as using the term “epileptic” vs “person with epilepsy” because those aren’t my lanes.

It’s okay to ask “do you prefer person first or identity first?” and go from there. I think a lot of people would appreciate getting the choice rather than have it made for them and they get referred to in a way they hate.

Not respecting how a disabled person wishes you to address them and their disability is an act of ableism. It’s denying our voices and our autonomy in a small, yet annoying way and just shows that people still ignore our voices.

theghostboy:

dwarvesandrobots:

theghostboy:

things i say that confuse and worry my coworkers:

• “happy birthday” every time i hand them something
• “well, that’s not ideal” whenever something is going wrong
• “we are in the timeline that god abandoned” whenever i’m mildly inconvenienced
• “can’t you see that your fighting is tearing this family apart?” whenever two or more coworkers are arguing
• referring to taking medication as “eating medicine”
• “time to go back to prison!” when putting animals back in their cages

• referring to inanimate objects as (s)he, particularly when i break something and say “oh no, he’s dead.” this concerns them especially when i follow it up with “that’s not ideal”

• “what are they gonna do, fire me?”

I work in a blood bank, and constantly refer to blood types as flavors, such as “Oh, you need two units? What flavor is he?” And my older coworkers just look at me confused but my coworker that’s my age doesn’t miss a beat and responds “A Pos”

this is probably my favorite comment on this post so far

whenever any one drops something i just stare at it for a second and say ‘goodbye’ in as serious a voice i can manage.

usbdongle:

having parents that were really angry and petty and abusive when you were young is weird, because it makes part of you grow up to want to be kind, to generate good things, to be a source of peace and wellbeing for others; but it makes another part of you grow up to be quick, and sharp, and spiteful, and that’s always the part that shows itself first in a hard situation, so it’s a struggle between your hateful gut reactions and your wish to not add any more misery to the world. it’s a hard balance, and the people who really, really know me – i know they see that anger flash in my eyes before i quiet it, if i quiet it…i want to overcome years of conditioning, and with gentle, constant force, i know i’ll mellow it. it just takes time.

ryanphantom:

frickmyrick:

ryanphantom:

ryanphantom:

ryanphantom:

noximillion:

ryanphantom:

ryanphantom:

ryanphantom:

ryanphantom:

seven days

six days

five days

four days

don’t listen to him, it’s nothing important

three days

two days

one day

ryan im scared

happy room-iversary

stimsuggestion:

fingerspell in ASL

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