sbroxman-autisticquestions:

To other autistic people, do you ever find that being yelled at can ruin your whole day?

Being yelled at, or even being next to some one yelling, or in the same vicinity as yelling ruins my week. I send the next few days jumping at sounds that are even slightly louder than normal, and another few days having to have music so my ears don’t ring with their words.

I dont handle yelling well.

daeranilen:

real-pcys:

real-pcys:

hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas

a classic example

daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it

mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too

a common variant

mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having