back when i was suicidal in high school the tiniest things would make me want to kill myself but also the most trivial things would stop me
i remember looking at a bottle of sleeping pills and going “i’m going to kill myself. i’m not going to get out of this town. i’m not going to be able to get into a good college” and then i would go “but wait! if you die tonight, you won’t be there when they invent time travel. what if you die tonight and aliens land tomorrow and you miss it. the entire world would change and you would miss it.” “ah, yes. good point. i’ll wait until next week to die. once i’m dead i’m dead, so i can wait a little longer to see if something cool happens before then.”
it never did but it brought me back from killing myself until i started seeing a psychologist and got on antidepressants
people are re-blogging this and i dont mind b/c they’re relating to it so that’s nice if it’s helping ppl understand
the whole “you have so much to live for!” idea was nice and well intentioned, but i felt like people were just spouting bullshit at me because i didn’t. i didnt have any friends or dates or talents. i had nothing to really live for.
but things like “oh, well if you die now you won’t be able to find out who jon snow’s mother is” did help. because i went “oh, well i’ll finish this book to figure out if my theory is right first.” because i was going to die anyway so a few more hours wouldn’t hurt and by the end of the book i felt less suicidal.
also years later i found out i was right about my theory.
This exact thing has helped me so much. Things like, “Well you can’t now because it’s Thanksgiving and you’ll ruin it, wait until after” “well now it’s almost Christmas so do it next year” “Well you can’t before you see how Game of Thrones ends” “Think of all the cats you haven’t pet yet” the trivial things have always helped me more than the whole, “people will miss you, you have so much to live for”
Find something to make you hold on a little longer, even if you take it hour by hour or day by day. Even if it’s just something like, “Well if I die tonight I won’t get to eat my leftover Chinese food tomorrow” it helps.
Finally some decent weather to work on harness training outdoors. It was still a little cold though so she wasn’t too thrilled.
Do not put your cat on a leash. If you want a dog, get a dog. If you live somewhere that’s dangerous to have a cat, don’t have a cat. Animals are not an accessory, having a pet is a privilege, not a right. Don’t train an animal to perform for your entertainment. Fed up with this hipster bullshit.
@fuckyeahfuncats Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, however it is my choice to harness train my cat; A choice that is based on the fact that cats are an environmentally devastating invasive species and that the outdoors (regardless of where you live) are an unsafe, unpredictable environment for any free-roaming domestic animal to have unlimited access to. A harness/leash combo allows me to control how my cat interacts with that environment in a safe manner. I can quickly move her out of harms way if necessary and do not worry about her running off and getting lost, or worse. I also have plans to build an outdoor enclosure (catio) this summer to allow her more unrestricted outdoor access while still keeping her safe from danger.
Also, I don’t see how training my cat to accept and walk on a harness/leash, while safely enjoying the outdoors is considered entertainment. If anything it is for HER (the cat’s) entertainment. Not only does she get to exercise some of her natural instincts (she can still hunt and stalk all she wants, she just can’t catch and kill, for that I provide her with frozen-thawed feeder mice to “kill” and eat) she also gets to interact with the local feral cats and wildlife by scenting messages they left behind or watching them from a safe distance. If I ever thought my cat disliked wearing the harness, and walking on leash, than I would stop using it, but she loves it because it means she gets to go (safely) have fun outside.
God forbid I decide to take a few photos of my cat safely enjoying the outdoors on her harness and share them online to hopefully brighten up someones else’s day.
Teaching a cat to walk safely on a harness is cruelly forcing them to perform for entertainment now? Lmfao you’d think a blog that’s supposed to be about funny cats would be less up their own ass and be able to figure out why harness training is a good thing on their own but I guess they’d rather be a public jackass and have it explained to them that way instead.
Reblog if u support hipsters walking their cats
“fuckyeahfuncats” has a very misleading URL
more like fuckyeahdeadcats amirite
Reblogging for the SUPER GORGEOUS CAT and to laugh at the idea of proper animal care being “hipster bullshit”, lmao.
I make noisemaker sounds at my partner when I want her attention.
I purr and hum happily when she gives me the proper attention.
When I miss her, I meow.
When I want to interact with her, I beep.
When I want her to know I’m sad, I whine softly.
When she makes me happy, I chirp at her.
When I want my husband, I will make a hum that will start, go up a note, and then back down.
When I’m not up to making sounds at all, I sign the words “I love you”. She signs back and we make the two folded over middle fingers bump together like they are kissing.
When I want to say I love you, but I feel too tired, I tap her three times and she taps back.
My partner knows that “speaking” this way is easier for me because we are both autistic. If it really is too difficult for her to figure out, she asks if I can write or type it out for her so she can understand. When words are easier for both of us, we discuss the meanings and develop the definitions for the nonverbal language we have with each other so it makes more sense next time we apply it.
Even then, my partner doesn’t always know what I mean when I make noises at her, but she never says “can you please just use your words already?”. She loves me and she would never force me to do something that would be harder and uncomfortable for me and I would never do it to her either.
It’s hard sometimes to communicate clearly with words when you are autistic, but when you love someone, you find ways to “say” what you want and need. If they love you back, they will learn what you are “saying” without needing those words.
Ok to reblog!
Edit: please don’t tag this as romantic/romance! Me and my partner are aroace and uncomfortable with our relationship being depicted as romantic.
“Firstly, never touch the hands of your heart. Rule number two, keep your temper under control. Last but not least, the most rule; whatever else you do, never fall in love.”
i understand that my friends don’t wanna talk every day. i understand that my s/o doesn’t wanna be lovey dovey and super indulgent every day. lots of people need rest from performative emotions. all people need rest in general! it’s okay!! it doesn’t mean they don’t love me!! it’s not a judgement or punishment!! they deserve to take their rest, and they deserve for me to treat their needs with respect!
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