It’s important to include kink in sex education to protect children from predators. This is both so kids know how to avoid bad situations and also so parents can recognize when a situation is bad.
For children under 10, this looks like “Don’t do things that people online tell you to do without checking with an adult you trust to make sure it isn’t a predator, even if it just seems silly,” and “Be wary of adults who want to touch you or watch you do weird things for no reason, even if it’s something that seems harmless like letting them touch your feet or squishing up things. Any touch you don’t want is a bad touch.” This fits in well with other basics about bodily autonomy.
For preteens and younger teens, you can be more direct (they’ll understand that sex is a thing beyond just creating babies, whether they’ve been properly educated or not). Something like “Some predators might have requests that don’t seem explicitly sexual at first. If they seem to be getting something sexual out of it, or if it just seems too weird or if it makes you uncomfortable at all, don’t do it, or ask a trusted adult and alert any site mods, if it’s online.”
For older teens and adults, more of the above, plus showing examples of common “challenges” that are actually kinkbait. (i.e. writing stuff on your feet and taking pictures of it, stepping in slime or gross/painful things, questions about theoretically squishing or eating people, tying up yourself or others, “gallon of milk” type challenges that often cause vomiting.) At this point, the object is not just to prevent individual victimization, but to allow them to identify situations where children are being preyed upon.
In addition, knowing what kinks are means that people who have them are less likely to think it’s okay to trick others into doing them. If you emphasize that kinks are sex, people will realize that forcing them on others is not just a prank with a dirty secret, but actually sexual assault. Younger people with kinks (they often do start in childhood; sometimes they’re not explicitly sexual until around puberty) will learn not to put themselves in dangerous situations over things they don’t understand yet, and also that there isn’t anything wrong with them. In all cases, it should be emphasized that the kink is not the problem, but the predatory behavior and coercion of others into sexual acts. If the kink is portrayed as the problem, people won’t make the distinction between doing it with a willing partner and tricking people into it, and the cycle will continue.
Lack of education is why predators can get away with things like this. There probably aren’t very many of these predators out there, but the nature of the internet and meme culture means that just one can easily get a lot of victims through things that seem like ordinary challenges or surveys. IRL, once again people often don’t realize that something could be predatory if it doesn’t involve breast or genital contact. Education is what’s needed; driving kinks underground and acting like consensual kink is predatory just makes these situations more likely.
I’m homeless and just got a job, however, I will have no income until two weeks from now. I’m almost to E in my car, if I don’t have gas to get to work I will be fired! I hate asking for money but guys, I’m fucking desperate. Please. I already haven’t eaten in three days. I’m so close to getting my life to a better place. Please. I’m begging you.
paypal.me/apocaplypticprince
I don’t have gas to get to work tomorrow. Please if there’s a god out there I’m begging please help me I can’t lose this job I’m so close to things getting better please
I’m so fucking desperate please if you’re able to donate please help me
I prefer to let my hair air-dry, but today I needed help because it’s not drying quick enough and I have a church function tonight.
The sensory hell of blow dryers is twofold for me.
I hate the noise. It hurts my ears.
I hate feeling the air actually blowing on me from such close range. Even “cool” air that tickles other people is like flames to me.
The reason somebody else has to help me blow dry my hair is because I throw the hair dryer to get it away from me when it’s in my hand. Throwing it is not voluntary or a choice I make, it’s a reflex like sneezing. I don’t do it to be antagonistic or misbehave.
Having help with it means I can plug my ears to avoid some of the noise, which makes the unpleasantness of the air on my skin bearable. My hair gets dry quicker and you don’t have to buy a new hair dryer. 😛
I’ve never been able to use a drier because of these reasons. They are the worst. Wife uses one, but fortunately I’m not ever in the bathroom with her when she does, and I can just put on my ears.
But also I’m a curly girl and hair dryers are pretty much the worst thing you can do to your hair if you want healthy curls. Maybe the worst. Scrunch, wrap, and air is how I dry my hair these days. That’s how I end up with a big bush right on the border of loose locks and tight curls.
One trick to dry your hair faster is flipping your hair around a lot. If you put your had up side down and kind of shake your head around it helps too.
You can also brush through it tons, if tossing it around is no good. Also product in your hair gets the water out faster (like putting hair oil in it).
I have crazy thick wavy/curly hair that takes 3 years to try so i shaved the underneath so it dries much faster but you can’t tell at all when my hair is down.
I want all young Autistic people on this site to know that they should never have to change themselves to satisfy neurotypicals.
That’s what society wants you to do. And there will be many, MANY instances where you feel obligated to do so. And maybe you will. You might stop stimming for a while because that girl gave you an irritated look, and even though you know you should stand up for yourself you feel so embarrassed and silly that you put your stim toys away.
Believe me, trying to change yourself to make neurotypicals more comfortable is a mistake. All those weird Autistic things you’re embarrassed of may become useful in the real world where clones don’t get far. Don’t look back in five years without any idea who you are because your one goal is to blend in with society.
Being Autistic is beautiful. There is NOTHING wrong with being Autistic. Please don’t change to make some neurotypical kid you won’t even remember happy.
Allistics/neurotypical allies who want to help, REBLOG THIS LIKE CRAZY so maybe an Autistic kid/youth can feel better about themselves.
Autistic people struggling with self-image or anything, feel free to message me 😘
ImmortalWave 