Shoutout to the survivors of hidden, unconventional, or non-blatant abuse.
To those whose abusers constantly threatened but rarely acted on their words.
To those whose abusers would treat them well at times.
To those whose abusers would tell them the abuse was “for the best”, “out of love”, or “in your best interest”.
To those whose abusers told them the abuse was just a “joke”, or “prank” or “game”.
To those whose abusers would stop talking to them as a form of punishment.
To those whose abusers would still feed and shelter them, yet completely emotionally neglect them.
To those whose abusers gaslighted them into believing the abuse never happened.
To those whose abusers used uncommon techniques or methods to hurt them.
To those whose abuse was swept under the rug because it was ‘unbelievable’ or ‘impossible’.
To those who do not have proof of the abuse they endured.
Have you always believed the abuse was actually normal parenting? Me too. Do you feel like you’re making it up, or exaggerating stuff? Me too.
Guess what? Those are lies. Your abuse is valid. Your pain is valid. You are not fake. You are not alone.
Tag: actuallytraumatized
just some abused kid things
– never being able to relax when adults are around even when you know they mean well
– “why are you giving me things what do you want from me”
– or “i cant take things because this will be used against me later”
– being jealous of other people because their parents are better than yours
– feeling guilty for being jealous
– an endless cycle of “fuck them!” “but it was my fault so im gonna be angry at myself” “im gonna direct that anger outwards” “fuck them!” “but-”
– people telling you to ‘get over it’
– “boys will be boys” apparently applying to older men as well
– no-one believing you when you tell them whats going on
– are my mental illnesses caused by the abuse or was the abuse caused by my mental illnesses
– flinching whenever anyone moves their hands too fast
– anxiety for no reason
This hits home a little too hard for me to handle rn…
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