– if they do not like that you research your disorder/s and treatment/s
– if they do not explain the reason/s behind certain treatment/medication that they are prescribing you
– if they are reluctant/refuse to let you access your medical records
– if their first response to symptoms is medication without any talk therapy
– if they say they “don’t believe in therapy”
– if they say they “don’t believe in medication”
– if they insist on seeing your parent/legal guardian without you being present
– if they tell you that there are no other treatment available if you complain about your current treatment/medication not working/having unmanageable side effects
– if they diagnose you without explaining how they came to that diagnosis, what it entails, and which treatments you have at your disposal
– if they fall asleep during a session (you’re laughing but it happened, several times, and i’m not boring)
– if they assure you that you cannot have [insert disorder here] because you are too young/wealthy/poor/fat/skinny/smiling/old/whatever bs (the only valid reasons for not having a disorder is if you do not meet the minimum criteria for it, age/body/ethnicity/etc are not criteria)
– if they tell you that you obviously do not want/are not ready to get help (that’s a super abusive technique, would only see this as a valid comment to make if you are pressured into seeing them by someone who has authority over you)
– if they insist on you continuing to take a medication despite the side effects very negatively affecting you (for example: if you are recovering from an ED and you get the “gaining weight” side effect and that is very triggering to you)
– if they are flippant about/disregard your feelingsi’m probably forgetting a lot. feel free to add.
EDIT: I made a blog to vent about bad mental health practitioners @shrinksfromhell. Check it out and submit your stories!
You can also apply most of these to standard physicians. Useful list, folks.
These people are supposed to be providing you with a service. If they’re doing a terrible job, it’s time to “fire” them and find someone new.
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Net Neutrality is Dead and You Can Expect Your Internet to Change on April 23rd
Yeah, no, I’m cross-tagging because the lack of attention this is getting overall is pissing me off.
Ajit Pai killed Net Neutrality. You’ll start seeing the effects you were warned about on April 23rd. Oh, and he apparently got an award for Courage from the NRA gun nuts, too.
You can still help by calling your senators and representatives. We just need ONE MORE PERSON on our side to get the senate portion of Congress to overrule the FCC’s decision to kill net neutrality. The battle for the net won’t end there, but it’s a start. Go to battleforthenet to find out who your reps are and where they stand, and CONTACT THEM.
Twenty-three states are also suing the FCC for this. I haven’t looked into it yet, but I assume big businesses like Google and Amazon are as well. Nevertheless, we can’t rely on lengthy lawsuits alone. The changes to your internet start in less than two months. We don’t have a whole lot of time.
Blow this up. Contact your reps. Please, do something! We HAVE to get the decision overruled!
I want people without sensory issues to know that when a person with sensory processing issues says “I cannot do x right not because of my sensory issues”, we are usually not using our disorder for a cheap excuse.
Sometimes I need to procrastinate doing dishes because the noise of plates or cutlery clinking against each other hurts my ears so bad I wanna cry. Even loading the dishwasher or putting away clean dishes is too loud.
Sometimes I need to put my foot down and say, “I can’t go out today. Because I know that when I go outside, I will get so overwhelmed by stimuli that it will render me useless for the rest of the day because I will probably have a really bad meltdown.”
IDK what point i was going to make but like… don’t assume someone is lazy because they use their sensory issues to explain why they can’t do something as soon as you ask them to, or because they cancel something because they know a specific input will hurt them. It’s not their fault. It’s the fault of their faulty sensory processing.
@immortalwave I think the “Put a Sock in it” is two-fold: First, you don’t owe anyone that information. Are you telling people you are Autistic because you feel like you have to tell them? If so, what reason do you have to tell them? Or are you telling them because it would help you for them to know? You get to choose who knows and why it is you tell them… be sure you are using that to your benefit. While it’s definitely nothing to be ashamed of or keep a secret, it’s also not something you owe anyone telling them about. Second, for those you do choose to tell, if they are negative about it do not listen or take it to heart. There’s nothing wrong or bad about your newly realized mental health condition. You are okay. If they want to be negative they need to educate themselves (not your job to teach them) and examine why they are reacting negatively (it’s not your job to counsel them through that process). So basically, tell the haters to put a damn sock in it!
Sometimes people react negatively because they feel badly or uncomfortable and are not sure how to help… even though they want to. Understanding this may also help you not take the less positive initial reactions to heart. However, if someone continues to be negative after some processing time, you might consider cutting ties and finding someone more supportive to take their place. Take care of you. ❤️
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thank you so much hun ❤ this means a lot to me. Part of the reason I’ve told the people i have is because I’m excited that theres a real reason behind my issues. I feel like knowing its autism makes me a whole person instead of this broken scattered mess. And i like that, and I like sharing that with the people I love. I like being able to explain to them that me getting sick out of no where, that I get over whelmed by new things to the point I cry. It suddenly all has a meaning, and a reason. I’m not crazy, or a cry baby, or stupid, or an air head. I’m just autistic.
You’re right, I dont have to tell people if i don’t want to. This is just something about me that helps me learn how to interact with the world around me better and in a more positive way and does nothing for them.
Thank you so much for this Syn. It means so much to me that you’re willing to do these. I’m sorry I couldn’t donate, but i would have if i could ❤
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How To Handle Hallucinations 2/8/2016
Hello everyone. Yesterday I got a private message in my inbox from someone who wanted advice on how to handle hallucinations. For the sake of privacy, I’m not going to share their username, but I will share with you guys what I told them.
1) When one of your senses is hallucinating, activate a different one. For example, when you are visually hallucinating, close your eyes, put on headphones, and listen to happy or relaxing music. If you’re hearing voices, take a shower or maybe touch something soft (if you have a pet, they’re -really- great for this). Maybe you have a favorite candy bar that you can have a few bites of, for taste. The point is that you calm down the sense that is hallucinating and focus on the sense that is experiencing what is real.
2) Factual observations. Do your best to avoid giving attention to your hallucinations and just look around the room you’re in and ask yourself, “Ok, what is in this room that I know is real?” I’ll give you an example. For me, I’m in my computer room in the basement. I see my cat sleeping in his cat bed; I know both he and the bed are real. I have a cabinet full of art supplies; the cabinet and everything in it is real. I see an empty can of diet root beer soda on my desk; I know that is real. You can also do it with hearing and touch. This is called the “Three 3′s”- name three things you see, three things you hear, and three things you can touch. (It’s ok if you can’t come up with three things for each, one or two is a good start!). Don’t pay any attention to something if you don’t know if it’s real: focus only on what you know for sure to be real.
3) Talk to someone you know is grounded in reality. If you’re hearing voices and are unsure what to do, ask a trusted person, “Hey do you hear voices saying [x] right now?” Make sure this is someone who knows about your psychosis and is someone you trust, not just a stranger off the street.
Those are the three main strategies I use to combat hallucinations. If I ever happen to come across more, I’ll be sure to share!
IMPORTANT PSA TO PEOPLE WITH FISH WHO ALSO LIKE STONES AND STUFF:
There are certain stones you simply CANNOT put into your tank. They will leech or dissolve into the water, putting your fish at risk.
With the whole boho crystal trend ATM fish lovers obviously want their tanks to match their summer lovin gypsy festival lifestyle but guys pls put your fish first.Fluorite is pretty but it will BREAK DOWN IN YOUR TANK, harming your fish. I literally just made that mistake and thank goodness I checked online.
Here’s some stones that CAN go in your tank:
Quartz
Rose Quartz
Aventurine
Jasper
Agate
Granite
Jade
Petrified wood
Onyx
Slate
River stones
Carnelian
Tigers eye
BloodstoneHere’s some that CANNOT:
Marble
Limestone
Pyrite
Fossils
Amethyst geode (contains heavy metals)
Coal
Dolomite
Selenite
Alabastar
Satin spar
Gypsum
CalciteRemember, if in doubt do the vinegar test! If your piece of rock bubbles up, it ain’t safe for your fish.
Xxx
There are 4 things I learned when I was 25:
You do not have to be affectionate all the time to care for someone, in fact, caring can also mean a couple of texts or silence for a few days while you both live your lives happily and separately.
People do not care for you less when they’re busy with their own lives. It’s your reaction to them being their own person – and your ability to make yourself happy – that determines how they feel about you.
Not everyone reciprocates to your actions the same way. If you want someone to acknowledge, be interested in, or treat you a certain way for your efforts, all you have to do is let them know. They will try their personal best to accommodate that within their personal spectrum of feelings.
No one owes you 100% of them, not even after 30 years, because someone having a percentage of themselves is what keeps them sane at the end of the day and that’s okay.
These things are so important to learn.
Very very important
ImmortalWave 